Undoubtedly, we are in a period of smaller and larger trips using various means of transportation. Traveling with children can be a significant challenge.
Children handle it differently; some do well, while others struggle.
The tricky part is that even those who have previously had no issues with several-hour flights or car trips might “surprise” us this vacation and neither sleep willingly nor sit quietly in one place. The conclusion is that it’s always worth having a few ideas up your sleeve to keep the child occupied during the trip.
That’s why we have prepared a list of engaging items for children of various ages – from infants, to toddlers, and preschoolers.
Explain the process
Have you ever treated a child somewhat more like an object rather than an active participant in events?
Unfortunately, this happens to many of us, especially when our minds are occupied with many tasks. This often happens during travel. We are in task mode: we need to pack, organize, be on time, and not forget anything. Children then become a “component” of this entire puzzle, making it easier to treat them without proper respect.
Paradoxically, it is in these moments, when the routine changes, and there is rush and nervousness, that children (regardless of age) especially need our attention and respect.
Before we move on to the list of toys, I want to share something even more important than attractive items: prepare your child for the trip by talking to them about the entire process!
At least a few days in advance, tell your child what to expect during the trip and at the destination. Yes, even to an infant, using simple language. For older children, you can show more photos and maps, describe more details, or maybe buy a fascinating book about airplanes? Explain why their ears might pop, that there will be gates at the airport, that you will sit by a small window, and that there will be another unknown passenger next to you.
Later, stay in touch with your child and explain what is happening, especially if you see that the situation is troubling and overwhelming for them. You will minimize the risk of strong, difficult emotions and negative associations by staying in close contact with your child before and during the journey.
Children are little people, and most people feel calmer when they have information about what to expect in entirely new circumstances.
Infants
How can you keep your little one calm during the journey? For the youngest children, routine usually works best, or at least attempts to mimic the routine. Traveling with an infant primarily requires ensuring their comfort. Instead of providing new stimuli, give your child what is familiar, liked, and soothing. Don’t overcomplicate things to avoid overdoing it.
What might work? You will surely find a few items on this list that will be helpful for you!
- White noise machine and car sunshade
- Books, contrast cards
- Downloaded/saved familiar music, lullabies (of course, singing in a gentle voice is also welcome)
- Safe mirror
- Baby comforter or soft toy
- Sensory balls/blocks
- First blocks/stacker
- Activity toys, rattles
- Some everyday objects you have with you – toothbrush, bunch of keys, leather purse, etc.
Toddlers
If you rotate toys at home, which I highly recommend, take those for the trip that your child hasn’t seen in a while but used to enjoy. If not, you can always bring their favorites or get inspired and choose something new from the list below:
- Books
- Coloring and drawing set
- Magnetic tiles
- Reusable stickers
- Puppets for role-playing
- Figures, dolls, cars
- Non-messy modeling clay
- Small puzzles
Simple but often effective, especially if your child hasn’t had them on hand recently.
If you’re flying, alternate between walks around the cabin and small activities with the above items. Also, remember to bring interesting snacks for your child.
Preschoolers
Although preschoolers can often focus their attention for much longer than the previous age group, it’s still useful to have a variety of options on hand. What could these be?
- Magnetic games, compact board games, card games
- Audiobooks (+ headphones for children)
- Puzzle books
- Books
- Notebook + pencils
- Figures, dolls, cars
- Creative sets (e.g., for making jewelry)
- Movies – if you decide to use a screen, choose valuable educational films or cartoons that you can watch together and discuss with your child
Final Word
Every child and every journey is different, so there is no perfect recipe for an easy trip with a child. However, I hope that some of the suggestions mentioned will work for you.
What always works is observing the child, trying to see the trip from their perspective, and having the conversation mentioned at the beginning. Always strive to ensure maximum comfort and safety, for example, by choosing a high-quality car seat, ensuring the child doesn’t overheat or get too cold, and making sure the light isn’t too harsh. Also, make sure the child stays properly hydrated and nourished.
One more thing, perhaps the most important. Try to prepare yourself well and with enough time to minimize your own stress and discomfort. Parents’ emotions greatly affect the emotions and behavior of the child. Take care of yourself as much as you can, and you’ll be doing a favor for both yourself and your child.
